[browneyes0707]

I'm reading through all these new responses, and I have to say, it is really amazing to me. Some of these posts I can see my DD's a mom writing, one I actually could have SWORN she wrote!!!

It just really gives a better understanding for me this side of the triad, especially in a situation like mine where there is an obvious affection and mutual respect for eachother and their role, but there is so much insecurity and fear underneath. I could never understand from my standpoint why that was, I was struggling with WHY a-mom would feel threatened when I 've tried and done so much to assure her of the opposite. But to see how many of you share these "truths" (which are not ugly BTW, in fact the expression of it makes it beautiful) makes me realize it is part of the experience, and not something that I did or said to provoke it. It just gives me more patience and more understanding when things don't go the way I would like. And this has started me to sort of shift through my own feelings as a birthmother, and evaluate my own situation and be able to see it in a new light.

And it gives me a new respect for all of you to be able to be so honest and so self aware. Thanks again for sharing!!!!