[Emberbit]

I'm not sure I should post this...

Kids know who does "mommy stuff" but sometimes they are uncontrolable...

When my daughter first started to talk, it surprised me when she called me “mommy.” I’m not sure why, only that I wasn’t used to it. And I had to train her early to refer to me by my first name if we were in a group because I didn’t always remember to think of myself as “mom.” Strange given that I did the day to day raising of her and such…but I was pretty young and had the role thrust on me unexpectedly. She still will call me mom when we’re alone or by my first name in a group that includes other kids and moms…because if she says mom 6 other moms respond and hers (me) is usually the slowest.

We had decided on titles for her many grandmothers (my mom, step-mom, and my 2 grandmas, her dad’s mom, step-mom and 1 grandma) and she used them until fairly recently but now…instead of “Grandma Marcy” or Nana Dorothy” (Nana being a great-grandma) she calls them all collectively “Mama first name” and for someone who took 3 years to get used to the idea that there was a mini-me calling me “mom” it hurts to have 7 other women granted the “mom” title…and I am the only mom to her both biologically and socially…

I can only imagine what it’s like for you…but sometimes it’s something kids do…and I don’t know how you would prevent it…if the kid decided on it. I certainly wouldn’t encourage it…I wouldn’t’ want to be given a “mom” title by a child I had placed. To me, it seems like digging the knife in a little deeper…though I haven’t been there so I wouldn’t know for sure…