[Vogi2002]

Please no bashing, and I'm going to say in the beginning here that I completely respect someone else's opinion and/or situation.

Okay I'm going to be completely honest here. I have read some posts about some adoptee's calling thier birthmothers "mom" either after reunion or in an open adoption.

This makes my skin crawl. Not because THEY call THIER birthmom's "mom" but because I don't think I'll EVER be okay with Cooper calling his birthmother Mom. Even if he is grown....it would be too hard for me, and I honestly don't know if I could ever accept it or be completely okay with it.

Of course I have never been one to call my friend's parents "mom" either. My mom is my one and only mom, I don't even call dh's parents mom and dad. "Mom" is such a powerful word to me....

Also, my agency teaches the bmoms to call thier children "birthson" or "birthdaughter" when referring to them with the aparents. I must say, while I have mixed feelings on this issue, it DOES makes me jump everytime I hear his bmom (who hasn't had much education) refer to Cooper as "my son" when talking to me. It's really hard for me. Has anyone else gone through this?

How do you move past it? I honestly don't think I'll ever be comfortable with sharing the title of "mom". Even if he calls other friend's mom's "Mom", now maybe "Mama (last name)". It's not that I dont' accept that he has two "mothers" in his life....I just think the title of MOM or Mama should be reserved for me....

Has anyone else had to deal with this or have any feelings on it?

Again, no disrespect meant....just discussion.