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My truth is that although our adoption is "semi-open" photos, updates, occasional phone calls outside of agency supervision. Our bmom never wanted more, her family does not even know about the boys and they live in a remote state. We have historically had a pleasant relationship I'd send cards and gifts for her children's bdays, X-mas and Mother's Day etc.
Recently, things have changed and our trust is broken. Now I am angry about her continued bad choices because of the legacy they leave our boys and the impact they may likely have on their siblings.
I was always certain, because of who I believed bmom to be, that an eventual meeting of our families would be at worst just okay and at best a really positive thing. Now I am truly fearful about where she and her children are going to be in the near future.
Her life is not mine to run but whether open/semi or closed, it is part of my children's history and I very much want her life to be successful for bmom, her kids and mine.
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