[browneyes0707]

Gotta have hope:

You SOOOOO don't suck!!!!

As a b-mom, I want to applaud you for the raw honesty and truth you shared with us!!!! It was incredibly brave of you to post that, especially in an atmosphere that "sometimes" can get a bit critical!

We all have our truths that are "not so nice" to the other sides of the triad. Lets face it, adoption is not a "truly selfless" act. Very few acts in life are.

Last year, I had gotten an email from my daughters a-mom, in which she admitted to me without provocation that she is not ready to handle DD and I having contact right now and does not want to allow it. She apologized for sounding selfish, but it was how she felt. My answer? Do not apologize for how you feel. You are entitled to it, we are all entitled to how we feel, and we all will have selfish moments in out adoption journey!

Lets face it, do I WANT to hear that she is not allowing contact? Um, no! But you know what, that statement made me so happy in the sense that this woman felt comfortable enough to be that honest and share that with me, instead of making excuses. I felt a closeness. There are times when I get on my own selfish kicks and I have my pity parties and sulky moments where I question her sincerity, I TRY to use that statement to put things into persepective. But while we are baring souls, I can tell you its not always that easy, and part of my truth is sometimes I dont want to be so darn understanding!!!!

I just want to hug you for being so open with us!!! Thanks for sharing!!!