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issues of relative adoption
response to Gina...
The relative adoption is full of so many issues when it comes to family relations, aren't they?
I have also had strained relationships with relatives regarding my adoption, some no longer exist due to their lack of boundaries regarding the adoption and my son's well being.
My son is now 6 years old, but has always known of his adoption. His birth mom, my niece, is developmentally delayed, and does not try and confuse Brandon, but fought about it a lot when he was a baby (opposite of yours I guess) she wrote letters and said that she was his "real" mother etc...
Perhaps if you tell you niece that if the comments continue, then the visitation will change, be monitored, or stop with the exception of e-mails, letters etc that you can monitor to see if they are appropriate until she gets some counseling or other support to understand how damaging it is for your daughter. You are the real mother, birth or not, and your daughters emotional well being is what is important.
It is hard and makes you seems like a *****, but sometimes it is for the best in the end....
my e-mail is p4disney at yahoo.com
Pam
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