[Indiaadoptee]

Hi Carro. I'm so glad you are looking to adopt from India!
Yea, the Indian name issue was interesting. I like Indian names, don't get me wrong, but I am not fond of the ones that are hard to pronounce! My last name is Petersen...haha.
Why would your husband fear the child wouldn't accept him? Is there a particular reason?

If the child was adopted as an infant, your husband would be the only father he or she ever knew, so there would be no reason why they wouldn't accept him. That was my case.

My younger brother, on the other hand, who was also adopted from India, came home when he was 3. So he was old enough to know about family names, like mom,dad, brother,etc. In India, my brother lived with a missionary family before my dad arrived. But he didn't have a problem accepting my dad because they introduced my dad as his dad. He finally had someone to call Daddy.

My brother and I are very fortunate to have an amazing dad, so no, it wasn't an issue at all, growing up. Now being in college, it's a whole new thing. I love my dad very much, but it is hard because I know I have a birth father still in India somewhere. It's a huge mental struggle-I want to know more about my birth father, but don't want to seem ungrateful to my adoptive father. And I don't talk to my adoptive parents about it because I don't want them to know how big of a deal it is to me.

Did any of that help? What questions can I answer for you? Any topic you want me to talk about?