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I just feel if an aparent and bparent go into an adoption as an "open" adoption they should stay with it and the aparent shouldn't be able to break the agreement just because they don't want to share the child anymore. Or the aparent gets upset because the child starts enjoying the visits with their bmom and getting close to her and the aparent gets jealous.
I just think that an open adoption should be as enforceable as in a divorce concerning "visitiation". A parent who denies the absent parent visitation with their child can be put in contempt of court.
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Rylee, I don't know your story or what made you so bitter against adoption but I don't agree with this statement. The child's legal parent (birth or adoptive) should be the one to decide what contact they can have with other people.
Only the parent knows how visits and other contact (letters, phone) is effecting their child. If I saw my child having some real emotional, or other problems with the openness of adoption I would definetly end the openness. By agreeing to adopt a child an adoptive parent promises to love and protect the child as their own. This includes cutting off birth parents from the child if any danger emotional or otherwise is present.
Birthparents need to understand this when they opt for adoption-They will No Longer be the parent and have any rights to the child. They may never hear from or see the child...EVER! I think this is where many birthparents are failed, no one really explains what this means when they loose their parental rights.
However this option is far better for many children rather than talking the birthparents into keeping their child. Some of these children born to unprepared moms that decided against adoption are ending up neglected and abused. Talking a mom out of adoption is just as bad as talking a mother into adoption. There needs to be fair education. If a mother is not ready to parent, adoption is the best option.