[Rylee45]

I'm just wondering if the parents here after adopting a child get edgy or uncomfortable when you first adopted your child knowing someone gave a baby up.

I'm not sure how to ask this question but, even though it had been several years since giving my daughter up, I met a couple who adopted through the LDSFS who hadn't known I'd given a baby up.

They brought their new baby with them to the paper delivery pick-up for a company we both worked for.

They were talking about how greateful they were that the adoption finally went through and were showing everyone how beautiful their new baby was.

I always perk up when I hear someone has adopted a child. I perked up to their saying the word "adoption" and went to also look at the baby.

They were all smiles and proud and everything. I decided to tell them that I had given my baby up through the LDSFS in 1976. I was smiling and telling them how cute their baby was and all that but the minute I mentioned that I'd given a baby up their faces dropped and they put the baby in the car and just got very edgy and couldn't look me in the eyes anymore. I didn't see them again. I think they quit the route.

I hadn't met my daughter yet at that time. This was about 12 years ago. I was still hoping we'd meet. We met 10 years ago.

I'm just wondering if this is how most adoptive parents feel when facing someone who gave their baby up even if it was years and years before like my situation was.

Rylee