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Especially as a single parent, you might think ahead on what your options are to take some time off of work. This child, coming from a different culture, will need time, possibly full time, with you for weeks or months. Think about this! Do you have a good support network of family and friends close by to help you out here? I'm not sure I'd chance this as a loner. I have two adopted girls, the older one (almost 6) has attachment disorder and she most definitely stretches the coping abilities of two parents.
I do not mean this to be discouraging - just some food for thought. I'd also suggest reading 20 Things Adopted Kids want their Adoptive Parents to Know by Sheri Elliott. It will open your mind to what the adopted child might feel like and how you might best respond. Since you are adopting an older child these thoughts and feelings and words will be there right away, not like an infant. You will also need to be ready to do "baby" things like lots of holding, maybe feeding, etc., to build trust and closeness and love.
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