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There has been extensive research done on in-utero bonding. Not only with adoptees, but regular old babies who stay with their bmoms. Have you read any of it? Where are you getting this that a baby in-utero has no attachment and no emotion before birth? I have not seen one study to support that.
I am NOT saying, by any stretch of the imagination, that a baby cannot bond with an amom. I am also NOT saying that all adoptees are wounded. I do wonder, however, why those of us that have feelings of a hole at the core of our being due to being separated - that our beliefs and feelings are called BS and utter nonsense. Based on what? Just because you don't have a primal hole - GOOD FOR YOU!!! That does not negate us that do, indeed, feel it.
Just as any other segment of society, adoptees can not be lumped together as all of us experiencing any one thing. Wouldn't it be nice that instead of calling other's opinions and feelings BS, that we just realize that we've all had different experiences? One is no truer than another.
Elaine
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