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So we had the meeting on Wed. and things went pretty well. In the begining things were kinda akward, there was a hand full of people there (birthmom, BF, aunt, SWx2) and us. pdd (potential dear daughter) was pretty shy and seems perplexed by what was going on. We all just sat around and everybody but dh and I visited. I was trying to interact with pdd. My dd was playing and trying to be the center of attention, as usall. She was pretty good about sharing ect. and she interacted a bit with pdd. After a while pdd let me sit her on my lap. She seemed a bit more interested with dh. He was playing a bit and interacting with her. Then we decided it woudl be ok if we went outside, just the 4 of us. Everyone else left, to my surpize. We had lots of fun in the backyard, we got some smiles and laughs. She is still really unsure about walking so she held our fingers and 'chased' dd, which both girls loved. She let both of us hold her openly and seemed pretty comfortable. Our dd was fine too, no issue of us holding another child. We went back inside and the aunt made lunch so I fed both girls, that was fun. pdd is a way better eater than dd!! She let me feed her milk (sippy cup) and let me for a minitue or so cradle hold her and have some good eye contact.
sooo we have decided to move ahead with things... we feel better/good about it this time around. It made a huge difference going in to the yard and having just time as a pfamily. She was 'younger' than I thought. I was pictureing a toddler similar to my dd, but that year does make a difference. She is still quite baby like to me. As I said she doesn't walk on her own (that we know of) and is quite cuddle/clingy which our dd is totally not! So some of my fears/apprehentions were lightened.
We have no clue how long things will take, been talk of a couple months to "hopefully as soon as possible" which by gov. standards I'm sure isn't quick. I'd love to see it happen by Sept. but who knows. I will start calling Mon and putting the heat on. (They've know our decistion since wed.)
ok I'm sure this is waaaay to long by now...and I really thought I had posted here already...but I guess not.
I'll keep you all posted! thanks for the kind words.
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