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Melissa, Why do you say:
"..if it [the bond] is severed there is no bonding only grief, this happens in mothers and children."
What do you mean there is no bonding? I would lay down my life for my adoptive mother and she for me. Is this not bonding?
No, we don't bond with our birthmothers if we are separated on the day we are born. And we do not grieve for them when we are infants.
Grief is too complex an emotion for babies to feel. Assuming they are properly cared for by someone, newborn babies eat, sleep, and fill their diapers. Point me to a study that proves grief in infant adoptees. Sorry, hormones in brain stems don't prove the existence of the kind of emotional turmoil you are talking about. Assuming they are healthy, babies thrive and live their lives, without a shadow of the loss that birthmothers feel.
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