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Aw, BigBertha, I can only imagine what a shock it was for you to find this information out in such a way. One thought I had was that sometimes when someone posts info. on an adoption search site, they don't realize that if you google it, it shows up. I never realized it until one day I was "googling" and when I googled the name of the man on my adoption papers it came up as my searching for him on an adoption site. I hadn't realized that!
I wanted to clarify things from my original post too. The man I contacted Knew my bmom long before he was married. I have been very discreet in my contact because I realize that I will never be able to be "daddy's little girl" and I do not want to cause him any problems. But I have had many health problems and more so as I become older so it is becoming increasingly important for me to find out who my bdad is.
I truly hope that you will realize that your husband has loved you for so many years. He must have agonized over his secret and now that it is out in the open, it gives an opportunity for both of you to come to terms with it and to become closer. Maybe some brief counseling would help get feelings out in the open.
I truly wish you happiness.
Snuffie
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