[A_mothers_love]

I to have read primal wounds, I believe that it has the ultimate in what is really going on. There are two different "types" of adoptee's, the pleaser and the one who acts out, these two personality types are of course very different. It is a proven fact that all of us are born with our personality traits built in through genetics. though a persons thinking can change through inviroment the main focus is basic personality in a baby. Even though the baby may not possess a honor roll graduate position, the baby still could be a "pleaser" in personality, this baby would be the wonderful quiet baby who slept all the time, trauma works differently on different personalities, some of us when faced with trauma run into ourselves, basically creating another world which we can rely on always, the other more extrovert in thinking will cry out and be inconsolable, this baby is also the one who would be more likely to seek social stance away from the adoptive family because they dont belong. anyway that is the scientific way of looking at adoption.
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Melissa