[Rylee45]

I really do appreciate all the coments that people here make and that no one attacks me for my questions. I am glad that you realize they are only questions and not something to cause a problem. I really do have a lot of questions and hoping that none of them ever hurt anyone.

One thing it helps me with is understanding aparents and makes it easier not to be angry about adoption in itself.

I'm angry with the adoption that happened with me because of the way my daughter was abused and how that whole situation went but hearing things here about how things are in this day and age has helped me feel a little differently.

I still when talking to young girls about adoption continue to try to talk them out of it to help them avoid the pain and agony they will feel their entire lives over giving their baby up, but at least now I can have a different attitude about aparents and if a girl really wants to give her baby up and doesn't want it, I can tell her there are people out there who really will love the child but make sure that she realizes all the things that go along with adoption.

I don't have a job with any type adoption agency or anything at all for that matter to do with adoption, but I have had opportunity to talk with girls who are pregnant and not knowing what to do and believe that I am doing the right thing in informing them about the way they will probably feel if they give the baby up and a lot of other things that are associated with adoption and doing my best to talk them out of it.

I have always been against adoption since the adoption of my daughter and all the agony I've gone through as a result of not standing up for myself and my baby.

I will probably always be against adoption as long as the laws are as they are concerning the non ability to enforse an open adoption when a girl gives her baby up thinking she will always have contact with her child. As long as that law is not enforcble I will always be on the bandwaggon against it adoption.

However, as I said, it does help me understand and feel a lot differently about aparents since being able to read all the stuff I've read here and having those of you willing to comment on things that I've asked about. It is a great help in the way I will be talking to girls in the future about adoption and may not be SO negative about aparents. I hope so at least.

I do have to say, I may be totally against adoption but if the option is abortion, adoption is the ONLY other option. Abortion is never an option in my opinion unless the life of the mother is absolutely in danger and no way she will live thorugh a pregnancy.

Rylee