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FWIW, my son's mother chose his first name. I did foster-to-adopt, so even though my son came to me at age 21 days, I didn't adopt him until he was 2. I could have changed his name at that point, but by then it was so *him,* KWIM? It's not a name I would have chosen, but it's his name, and I love him, so I love his name. And it's left him with a connection to his bmom that I think he'll value as he grows older.
I did change his middle name, though, because it was his father's first name. I think his relationship with his bdad is going to be mighty complicated, and so I thought he should have the freedom to embrace that part of his identity or not, as he chooses. If he gets to a certain age and wants that name back, I'll take him to the courthouse and we'll change it back.
So, yeah, I think if you want to pick the name, and you can find a family that agrees, it's not a big problem. The aparents will eventually love the name because they love the kid, and the kid will get the gift of a name from you.
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