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Originally Posted by Jannyroo
No offence meant, but I think there is considerable concern here. I think adoptees more than anyone know what I mean.
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My feelings are probably extreme, but I'm a little ashamed to admit that I agree with this sentiment. I don't want to have my own kids because I feel there are more than enough people on the planet, but I don't want to adopt because I'm terrified that my child would have the same issues that I did; I would not wish that sort of existence on my worst enemy. Of course I don't oppose adoption, but I don't think I could ever inflict it on a child (and, by extension, a birthmother). What does not kill us may make us stronger, but it would have been nice not to be in a situation that posed a threat to my health and well-being in the first place.
Note: I'm a bit bitter right now as I'm just starting to work through the emotions I've been feeling for so long. Since I can't let them out in the way I used to, i.e. acting like a child, I get very frustrated at other things and channel it that way. I do not mean to offend anyone with my post, just offering my admittedly pessimistic views, which will most likely change as I heal.