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Well, I was adopted in 1976 in a closed adoption.
And I always said as a child that I wanted to adopt when I was older, not give birth. I thought it would hurt. I also would say that I would just go buy my children, which my parents still think is funny. Looking back now, I thnk that is one of the saddest and awful comments ever and I guess it is telling on what I thought the undercurrent of my adoption was. I was like...6 at the time.
But I did always want to adopt eventually.
So, when I got married, I had a feeling that I wouldn't be able to get pregnant and several thousands of dollars later, I would be proven to be correct. So we moved to adoption, which we had discussed and decided on before we were married anyway. Like i said, I always wanted to adopt. On the whole, it was a good situation for me.
One of the only reasons that I truly wanted a biological child, as well as adopting, was because I was adopted. I wanted to see someone with similiar features as me across the table, for example.
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Mommy to a beautiful baby girl and LIVING in open adoption with her daughter's birthfamily.
Coming from a perspective of two sides of the triad - as an adoptee and an adoptive mama.
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