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Originally Posted By Debra

Got a little panicky thinking I had lost my best source of support during the very first week of being an adoptive parent. Maybe I'm addicted to this board....lol. This is just the best place I've found to get good information and GREAT advice. So of course going "cold-turkey" for a couple of days now, I have tons of issues that I need help with, but we'll start with the most recent concern.(Just to refresh your memories, we adopted siblings, an 11 year old boy and 14 year old girl, last Thursday, April 18). Both are ADHD, but med free for the past 2 years. Girl is extremely fidgety, can't sit still, always touching things, etc. Question: Is there an age appropriate activity to keep her hands busy? One of those squishy balls, or crotcheting or something? ANYTHING?!?! Should I make her try to sit still (on her hands) or just ignore her incessant fidgeting (and poking and prodding at her brother or me or dad). I think I read that we need to teach them to control their behavior, for school and future employment and social interaction. She was doing good in her old school, A/B student (mainstream) but she's only been here a week. I won't even mention that it drives me absolutely NUTS (of course that's what kids are supposed to do to parents, right?) Any advice from those of you who have BTDT?