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Hi,
I have been wondering many of the same questions. I'm almost
35 and my husband is 40. We've been married 14 years now and
have been trying to conceive for 5 years. After going through infertility treatments, and going through a heartbreaking miscarriage we decided to adopt. We were so relieved to be able to stop all the doctoring and move towards what we wanted most....a child to love, go to the park with, read stories to....someone to wake up to each day to with a smile.
You hear about the need for adoptive parents...but you don't
hear about the long waits, the costs, the paperwork until
you get into the adoption process. In my state to adopt an infant right now means getting on a waiting list....and then in about a year starting the process.....and actual time of placement is currently almost 4 years. I know that we've gone through infertility for that long.....but the thought of waiting another 4 years is heartbreaking. So now we too have turned to trying to figure out how to meet a birthmom also. I see many internet sites where you can post a profile and am trying to decide which ones are "trustworthy". I have spent a lot of time reading people's profiles and see there are so many wonderful families out there wanting a child to love. I know that the birthmother's who read those profiles have some hard decisions to make as to who to trust also....they are making a life long decision as to who
they feel would give their child a great life.
I have dreamed of the day when I would see a child out in our yard playing on swings, riding bikes, playing in the trees with the kitties, and going to get ice cream with grandpa and grandma. And it is that thought that keeps us motivated to see our dreams
come true.
Adoption isn't and easy process or a cheap process. It's sad that it seems to have gotten to be a process where "money" seems
to be a big factor.
Good luck to each of you in finding the little miracle who will make your lives complete.
Jade
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