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Waiting game is hard... and long!
A. lived was with us 11 months when she was two, then went back to her birthmother. The birthmother appreciated the bond A. had formed with our family, so she allowed her to come for the weekends twice a month or so. Then the birthmother ran away again and we have had A. ever since February 2006 (17 months) She is 5 and a TPR trial is set to begin in Sept. Meanwhile we have to go through visits each week which are so stressful for the poor child. Not to mention that sometimes the birthmother doesn't show. We are also trying to negotiate a surrender at the same time, but the conditions are getting out of control and we regret agreeing to so many in an attempt to just cut a deal. However, the birthmother hasn't signed anything and we just heard that she had a 24 hour relapse. Why does this have to take so long? It seems the longer things drag out, the more psychological damage will be done to the children. It's so hard to understand why birthmothers like this still hold all the cards and get so many 'second' chances.
Our prayer is that A will bounce back but the hope of that seems to grow smaller with each passing day.
Bio kids ages 17 and 15
Foster child age 5
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