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thank you, again, for the thoughtful posts. i'm trying to be as "positive" about this as I can--since I'm in agony on the inside. my husband and I are absolutely heartbroken that this has happenned, and we're suddenly trying to switch gears to do everything in our (now limited) power to protect the children.
honestly, the Bmom is a very sad, sad person who was abused herself and has perpetuated the cycle of abuse. we just want to stop that cycle, and give our two, beautiful boys a "normal" life. We were hoping to accomplish that will full adoption. now, we'll need to try to accomplish it without the adoption. but our goals are still the same--to protect and love the kids--helping them to be all that they can be. that's why i'm hoping to somehow "tame" this visitaion into something that traumatizes the boys as little as possible (all the while still advocating our position that it's not in their best interests--as their therapist and both guardian ad litems testified in court.) But it's so hard, because I feel like I have to be "double minded"--on the one hand, trying to set up the event to be as "fun" as possible, while still maintaining my position that this is bad for the children. It's somewhat sick, really.
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