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But I've been wondering alot lately about how many people would choose disrupt if they weren't afraid of the wrath of friends/family/society/county/etc...Or if they had known more information - wouldnt' have adopted at all. (?)
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While I stated that I know----somewhere, there are good and successful older child adoptions, I also know of a LOT of people who'd disrupt----today----IF they knew they wouldn't be charged with abandonment or neglect (a tactic the system LOVES to use to force good families to stay intact with dangerous kids within the family). I've also read/heard several families (including ours) who feel that if they'd realized they'd have no support when things went badly, they'd not have adopted older children at all!
Again, the bottom line is realizing what you're up against; and knowing what your limitations are as well. And, to know that you need to approach older child adoption with eyes-wide-open, to say the least.
Sincerely,
Linny