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hey Ivnlfe ....this is a sx week reunion - you have known each other for a couple of weeks - you have already had several contacts with the amom and you have arranged a visit in August ...............whew....??.....you are moving really fast and remembering what my reunion was like, I doubt either of you can make a totally unemotional decision at the moment. My suggestion would be to slow down and take this on small step at a time. At the moment you are probably in "information overload" and birthdaughter not clear on exactly what she is involved in.

Best Advice - Read Adoption Reunion Survival Guide !!! It will allow you to see that all the emotions that are flying around at the moment is a common phenomonen. For both adoptees and birthfamily. AND.... Remember slow is good. It gives all the parties time to catch their breathe and decide exactly what they want out of this new relationship.

Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to heal so when daughter open's up to you, you are not carrying your own loss and hurt into the relationship. And, in spite of what amother tells you, I would suggest you go into this reunion with an open mind, a positive attitude and always assuring your daughter that you are looking for a friendship that lasts a lifetime. (That stops the confusion of trying to work out how you integrate another mother into her life)

Keep reading the forums and keep posting. This is a fantastic support system and many will share good advice - all based on their own experiences.

Ann