It's very difficult doing this on my own but I've had lots of practice - 27 years! All the books say to surround yourself with a support network but if it isn't there you make do, this forum has been a Godsend. I'm not too concerned about hubby - if he doesn't change his mind it's his loss and I'll enjoy a relationship with our bson and he'll be left out. Of course, I am worried that it will be devestating for our bson but I've told him that it's not about him that hubby is just not ready. Alot has to do with his strict upbringing too and how his parents reacted then and the fact that we both believe they should not be involved in any reunion. They are too set in their ways and it would be difficult for everyone, especially bson to see their narrowmindedness. I still get the occasional jab at how I'm not good enough but I figure hey, your son married me! As for my daughters they just need to be reassured that they haven't been "replaced", like that could happen! Our relationship has changed but in a good way. I have a feeling that it isn't unusual in the reunion process for siblings to have a hard time integrating but none of them are "children" which I think will make all the difference in the world. I'm in no rush anyway, I want to keep him all to myself, for now! I only wish I lived closer so we could get together for coffee rather than having to plan a long trip, hotel, etc. It is getting easier to leave him as I know I will see him again, or he'll call, but the distance is difficult to overcome and the waiting is driving me
All the best.