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Originally Posted by NMmama
Thanks for the replies. I am glad I am not the only one. Another question for you - do you talk frankly with your daughter about your feelings or do you always say only positive things? My daughter is 13 and I just don't know whether to tell her I have mixed feelings about talking to her birthmom or just leave it as it is.
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My daughter seems to be going through a phase where she doesn't want to talk about anything birthfamily related. I try to initiate conversations when something is relevant. OUr adoption is closed and she knows the reasons for that. The social workers and counselors had already told her a lot before we adopted. We talk about the thiings that she remembers and some of what I know about her case before she came into care.
I never really tell her my feelings, my true deep down feelings. I tell her that I know her Bmom loved her as much as she could. She lost a total of 5 kids to the state, two with brain damage from the abuse. I know that my daughter questions how these things could happen herself and will more as she gets older.