[BrandyHagz]

Please don't assume they are all women either....and again, I am not talking about emotional scammers who scam adoptive parents by pretending to be pregnant.

I am talking about people (men and women, I've seen both) who join forums, email discussion lists, newsgroups etc and claim to be birthmothers who placed a child for adoption...

As for the questions asked - usually, yes the story changes...or, in the case of one 'birth mother' the story DOESN'T change - her daughter never aged a single year in the three years she participated in a specific group. When questioned about the oddity - she dropped off the face of the earth (I'm sure she's already back as someone else...)

These aren't people 'scamming' adoptees or 'scamming' adoptive parents - these people are 'scamming' the entire adoption triad by pretending to be a member. These are people who take an entire close knit community (like our forums) hostage with their lies…often times leaving emotional damage in their wake.

I was just wondering if anyone else had experienced this – I know one of the ‘biggest scams’ that took place here on the forums involved this type of thing – several years ago…we never did figure out why she did what she did.

She later came back with a totally different story (pretending to be someone else entirely) but was still a ‘birthmother’…her story included a multitude of felicities – some of which could have gotten her in some really DEEP legal trouble (and were reported to the authorities in her state, in the event she was actually trying to ‘live’ this lie IRL).

Sad…very sad.