Hi Brandy,
I'm not sure why a woman would pretend to be a birthmother for reasons other than attention, unless she was trying to take advantage of an adoptee, possibly by portraying herself as the birthmother of a targeted adoptee.
I am curious, though, if these women are communicating with you via email, how are you able to discern that they are imposters? Do they eventually give themselves away or something?
Would it be possible that they have slipped into some form of mental illness after having an abortion, and the only way they can live with their decision is to pretend that they actually had a baby and then relinquished?
I've heard of people pretending they have a terminal disease such as cancer in order to gain attention, and sometimes even for monetary gain. What would an imposter birthmother have to gain other than locating an adoptee with whom they could assume a relationship?
I have never heard of imposter birthmothers before, let alone a prevalence of them. How do we tell the difference on the forums?
Peace,
Susan
