[PRAISEMom]

I'm trying to be compassionate and understanding, but I am uncomfortable and unsettled by my DD's Birthmom. She has a pattern of lying--imagining things are different than they really are--even to the point of telling some people at her work about the adoption, but then telling others that she has a baby who is either at home with dad (she is unmarried, lives alone) or "staying with friends." She told me this herself. Someone she works with approached me to warn me to be careful of her.

There are many other lies, half-truths, conflicting stories. We agreed to visit 4x a year but opened it up because we live an hour apart, and had known each other (slightly) before the birth... it just seemed silly to be so legalistic and rigid.

But the more we give, the more she wants. She even got upset because we went on vacation without telling her beforehand. She calls several times a week, sometimes several times in a day. It's too much!!

We have three birth children, in addition to our adopted DD (6 months old). I need to know: Is this normal behavior for a grieving birth mom, something to "ride out," or should we be concerned and close things down? Your perspectives would be appreciated.