[tobeafamily]

Look, you basically have three, maybe four options here:

1. Terminate the pregnancy, assuming you're still within legal timeframes to do so.

2. Give birth, surrender the child anonymously via a safe haven spot - typically these are hospital ERs, police stations, fire stations.

3. Give birth, place with adoptive family - this will likely require consent of your husband as in most states he will be considered a legal parent whether he is the biological father. Putative fathers would have to challenge in most states, a registry may be checked.

4. Give birth and raise this child as you have your others.

Lying should not be an option, it never does help anything anyway. Others may judge based on their lives which of the four options are the 'best'. You're the only one though in your shoes. Be careful of anyone though who will say 'you don't have to name the father' or 'your husband doesn't need to sign' if he does. Unethical people abound, including those wishing to traffic your child to some very not-good people. I wish I could say that doesn't happen but you'd be surprised how often it does.

Best,

Regina