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It's much more acceptable for whites to adopt non-whites. I'm not sure why this is. Maybe because of that false believe that "White is right."
My Asian CW is working overtime to remove my "white" daughter out of my home and into any relative home she can find, regardless that my daughter is bonded to me and none of the relatives she's asked has been interested. All this CW sees is skin color, while forgetting that my daughter is 1/4 Hispanic, with a grandfather whose skin tone is as dark as mine, and 1/4 Jewish. I guess her in her mind as long as you look white, you can forget about the complete racial heritage.
Thank God, my daughter has a lawyer who believes that children shouldn't be bounced around the system, especially to go live with a distant relative they've never met or seen before, instead of staying where they are loved and bonded. How I wish all the DCF workers, lawyers, social workers thought like this. For some reason I thought everyone was supposed to be working to do what's best for the child and not for yourself....
So after dealing with DCF for going on 4 years and becacuse it's been on my heart since a teen, I'm on the waiting list to adopt an infant girl from Vietnam. Eight more months to wait though I'm praying for a referral by Christmas. It's so nice to be part of a "simple", "easy" adoption. I'm beyond thrilled to know that the second time I hold my Layla in my arms, days after I get to Vietnam, that she will be legally mine. None of this living with this worry in the back of my mind that she could be taken at any moment. None of this back and forth with the court system. What a blessing.
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