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Keds!! I am so happy for you! How amazing and exciting! Monday, huh?? Wow.
Is the adoptee as nervous as the bparent?? YES! Without a doubt! I made a list of things casual conversational starters and then memorized it in preperation of my first f2f... just in case the conversation lagged for any reason (TOTALLY UNNESSARY!! Mostly because a millions members of my afamily were there and they never left us alone... but I am so glad that you went with your gut and are going to meet alone for your first meeting!
The whole adult things is a really good point... I know that so far everyone is kinda kidding about being the adult but that has been an issue for me in my reunion. I really need my bmom to be the adult especially emotionally and often she acts like the child. I encourage you to have the mindset of being the adult and not putting your bchildren into the position of having to be the adult. I don't think my bmom is even aware that she does this but it is really an intense burden to try to carry!
Good luck, Keds, keep us all posted!!
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