[Jensboys]

I would also like to add that I did go on and become an adoptive parent. Seeing my mother's pain regarding the loss of her first daughter and her sincere desire to know this other child greatly affected my understanding of birth mothers and my sensitivity to adoption issues. This will cause your children to grow. Just a suggestion - I would tell them all right away. Maybe pursue counselling for yourself while/before you do it. Also, a comment on what your mom's opinion is ... my grandmother also was somewhat reluctant to accept (ok VERY reluctant) this "new grandchild" because of the shame she associated with her. So... saying that you may have to put some boudaries up as well especially if a reunion become immenent. Good Luck!