[kjm69]

Hi Carol,

I am a Bmom in re-union with my daughter after 32 years! I had my little girl when I was 17 and never told anyone except my husband of 30 years. We have 3 children and I have never told them and I so regret it now.

You MUST tell your children. Do it now my dear and tell them all. Enlist your husbands help and sit down one evening when everyone is there and calmly tell your story. It won't be easy--I know because I had to tell my children after my daughter found me last year. They were 29, 24, and 20. I cried and could barely get it out but I did. As you say it is not the baby you are ashamed of but the way society has made us feel.

I think the two younger ones took it well, but the older one had the hardest time with it. She is beginning to thaw now, but has never really explained her reluctance. I think it has to do with birth order and being the oldest as Jen has stated.

I wish you luck and let us know how it goes. The experts say re-unions go so much better when the children know. Your little ones will take it well they always do.

And another thing DO NOT be ashamed anymore--hold your head up high! I lived with the "secret" for so long that I can now proudly say I have a beautiful daughter, son-in-law and two grandchildren!!

You will get by this--trust me.

Take care,
Janet