ok.. More questions from the new mom! lol
I have devoured Nancy Thomas' book, and dh has been listening to the cd's I got for him. After talking with dh, it sounds like they pretty much go over the same things. Can't say how nice it is to feel like he and I are finally getting on the same page!
Question is.. fs has been here for 3 MONTHS already. Because we had no idea of his issues, we have not parented correctly. Now that we know, and wish to institute change within the home, I am prepared for a huge battle with fs.
I feel totally lost still, in knowing how to deal with things as they come up. Dh is talking about getting the alarm for his bedroom door. I need to make sure that he begins asking for everything under the sun, and also limit his tv / video games. Stupid as it sounds, all of this is overwhelming to me because I don't have consequences prepared, for one. Another thing is that it is into the 100's outside, and I have a difficult time keeping fs busy on the days he's home (nor have I enjoyed his company, sadly).
Does anyone have advice on how to make changes once the child has had so much freedom in the home?? Do we just sit him down and explain that things are going to change? Do we just start making the changes and expect him to get it as he goes?? I know we're supposed to "keep them on their toes".
I started yesterday with making sure he walks either beside me or behind me.. But of course his response is "well then I'll just walk WAY behind you."...ARGH!!! What do I do when he is so resistent to the things he's being asked??? Send him to his room? Tell him he'll have to hold my hand, which he'll fight the whole time?? Thomas' book gives the technique's, but I'm left with the question of "ok, THEN what?" I know he'll fight everything I try to accomplish, no matter what my technique, so I'm afraid to begin making changes just yet, until I know how to deal when he doesn't step into line like the book suggests he will.
Help is SO appreciated!!