Angelkisses, I got tired just reading your list!
Our oldest has overcome much of what used to be HUGE issues, and I think that's why I got tired reading your description...flashbacks to what each day used to be like! LOL
I am so glad you posted about the Omega 3's. Our two oldest Ds's show a marked improvement when we have them on Omegas, too.
Additionally, after researching fetal alcohol and diet issues, we have limited dairy (casein) for the oldest and see some improvement in his ability to self-regulate and concentration. Don't know about gluten...we weren't able to eliminate it for long enough to tell.
I'm going to have to get that lined up again. It was too-too much at the time we were doing it. It takes alot of mental energy for me to figure out a casein-gluten free diet.