I laughed out loud when I read what Cherrymom said about friends saying it is just a phase and the kids will get over it.
We were actually told that we 'just didn't know what a 4 year old little boy was like'. Um, yeah. We're such air heads that we adopted a child not knowing what 'kids were like'. We actually did have experience with kids in a variety of settings, as well as having a bio child who is several years older than our oldest adopted child. Anyway, trying to explain to people about SI was a real treat at times. (NOT!) Additionally we believe that our son with dysfunction of sensory integration also likely has FASD, so it's been a hoot listening to people sincerely tell us that if we were 'just better disciplinarians', or 'knew what kids were really like', or 'weren't looking for labels and just loved our kids', that our kids would be 'just fine.'
Actually, we're doing pretty well. The kids still have their ups and downs, and some days are more insane than others, but overall they've made phenominal progress and are continuing to do well. But for awhile there I was so very, very tired of well intentioned comments.
