[wife2grumpy]

Originally Posted by Boulderbabe

Why don't you take the baby, and ditch your sister and her daughter? There's no law that says you have to communicate with them...

I do not want another baby, nor can I handle another highstrung little one, He has wheels for feet and goes from daylight to dark. One sitter asked me dose he ever stop running and talking? lol nope, he don't even require sleep. (he is going to be tested, if that is what you are thinking) I don't want the stress that it will create in my family, not just my house hold, but my parents home. I thought about this for 6 months and my cons out weighed the pros, I cannot do it, its that simple. If this is selfish of me then so be it. I have though about this long term, I have a small home with 2 bedrooms. It is not right the have 2 children of the opposite sex in the same room. What happens when they are teens and they have to share a room? Not only dose the law say they can't it is not fair to have to share a room at that age with a brother and sister.
What happens if I take this one, and she gets pregnant again? Then they take that one, and then she has another one? Am I supposed to keep taking her children because she is not responsible enough to use birth control?
I have raised my child, she is going to be 19 and going to college this fall, now I am raising my great nephew and wouldn't trade either for anything in the world. Just because I have him, dose not mean I want to, or required to raise every child she gives birth to.
My niece dose not call my home, but she makes it her life goal to go to my parents and her mothers house and talk about her great big plans for her son, she no longer has, but thinks she still has a say. My sister goes and tells my parents what I should do and how I should do it. My parents tell them both "you have no rights" !
So in the end, regardless of anything else and above all J needs my undivided attention, and he will continue to get it. This is not about me, Its about what is best for J, my caseworker and I had this conversation a while back and she thought that in J's best interest, it is best not to take on baby 2. As much as it hurts to say no, this is best.