Hello and welcome to the board,
Well, first of all ...keep in mind that all potential bParents are looking for different things. Some are looking for two parent homes with a mother who will stay at home. Some are looking for a strong Christian family. Some are looking for a family who is artistic. Some are looking for a family who is like their own.
As far as you don't know where to start ..there are many forums on this site that may be able to help you out. Try checking out other boards under the adoptive parent boards, and I'm sure you will find someone how can get you moving in the right direction.
As far as you and your partner being a same sex couple ...hmmm, I don't know really. In my personal decision making, yes, it would have been an automatic "no" - but, I am just one person. There may be a potential bMom who doesn't mind ...or maybe even she was brought up in a same sex home and is looking for that. Truthfully, I think your chances are more slim ...if you want an open adoption - but, I am not a professional. As I suggest above, feel free to check out other boards ..I'm sure someone who knows more about the subject can help you.
I think it is safe to say, however, that most potential bParents are looking for an adoptive family is who real. Someone who is geniune in their "Dear bMom letter". You can usually spot someone who fills their letter with things they think the potential bParents will want to hear. Though tempting, this is very unfair to the adoptive couple, to the bParents, and especially to the child.
Most bParents also look for things like stability, honesty and truth, someone who will keep their word and honor their promises.
Take care,
Skye