[mrskllp]

We did a kinship foster care with my husbands cousins kids and we had so much trouble from his dad causing trouble for the parents! He would call and say things that weren't true and make stuff up to the CW it was horrible! Needless to say it is nothing compared to your situation! Here is my thought, you could take this baby under the strict understanding that the department doesn't tell the mom and sister where they placed the child! They have to keep all placements confidential, at least they do where I live, but anyways at least that way the kids could be together( if that is something you would consider, if not I understand your situation and really don't blame you for saying no)! Are they going to terminate her rights with the new baby as well?
My current FS who is 9 1/2 months is going to have a sibling in Oct. and the department told me they weren't going to do TPR(on the 9 month old) until after this baby was born and that I would have to take it because by law they have to put siblings together, I do not know if that is true, but I told them that they could find a foster home with room for two because they wouldn't force me to do anything I am doing them a service by being a foster parent, and they weren't gonna bully me into anything! Well, after a lot of prayer and thinking I told them I would take this baby because I don't want to lose the one I have, because birth mom has already expressed her desire for us to adopt him and I really want to adopt him and I would adopt the next one too, because I want to keep them together, but if I was in your situation I have to say I would have said no as well, because there is no point in you being upset all the time and your kids seeing this, but your age shouldn't be a factor because 41 isn't old!!! You still have a lot of life in you, but at the same time I also understand the feeling of you were not put here to raise all the kids your niece decides to have! She should figure out what causes it and STOP DOING IT!!!(I felt that way when I was told I had to take this next baby! If she doesn't want to stop making babies that is not my fault and I wasn't put here to raise her children, but it is not the childrens fault so I had a change of heart!) Anyways, I apologize for the long wind in my response I hope all goes well for you and the children, it is ultimately your sanity at stake here no one else's so you need to do what is best for your family unit because they are what will suffer if you say yes and then nothing but trouble comes afterwards! Good Luck to you and take care of YOU and your family!