[wife2grumpy]

My niece is 7 months pregnant, and J's bio parents parental rights have been terminated, and he is still ward of the court. We are adopting him, the paper work has been submitted, but we are told it can take a year for it to go thru.
I do not know for sure, but, I am getting the assumption that when this child is born, the state will take her. The hospitals have been flagged. We have talked about me taking the baby when it was born, I said no. I do not want to sound mean in any way, but, I was put thru the ringer by my niece and my sister, and I still am. I don't want to deal with the visits, the drama, and demands they try to place on me.
I have been accused of not feeding him right, putting clothes on him that were too small (at 10 months old she had him in 4t clothes) abusing him, and only she could see the bruises, that came and went during the visits. I have been threatened, and cussed out.
My sister is mad and says she hopes to god I don't try to keep my nieces son away from her for the year it take to adopt, she must not understand the term "termination of parental rights" and all visits are to "cease" . I am told how I should raise him. She actually told my husband that he needed to start sharing a ride with some one or start taking a bus to work. I needed to put J to bed by 730 and get him up at 7am. Then I have J's birth mother telling family members she is taking him for the weekend on his birthday. NOT happening, unless she prey's him from my cold dead hands! She says will be enrolling him in a program by her house, using her address and I will just have to like it and take him, it is her son and she has the right to enroll him in what ever she wants.. The list of things goes on and on. They are acting as if the rights were never terminated.
Well now I have my hubby talking about taking the new baby and I told him NO. I can't do two babies and have them on my back constantly on how I am to raise them, fed them, dress them, give them naps, and harass me for the next 18 years. Oh and they will. She didn't do her case plan or even try to keep her son, and my sister didn't want custody of him. There are more reasons for me not taking on The new baby, one being I am 41, my house is too small, looking at long terms decisions. Oh and my husband don't drive so I play taxi cab....

Thanks fo letting me vent, and do you all think I am being mean by not taking the new little one on?