[ourdreamcametru]

I am an adoptive mother so I can't answer most of your questions but can say that you should interview different agancys and lawyers who specialize in adoption to find the right fit for you. Our daughter's bmother found us through a friend of a friend, we helped with some expenses before the baby was born and counceling. One thing that I noticed in your post is that you do not want your baby to become just the adopted child if the couple has other children. My husband and I have two bio boys who were 10 and 14 when our daughter was born and I assure you that in no way is she just the adopted child! Our feelings nor those of our family and friends, are no different for her than our bio children! She was our child the moment bmother told us she wanted us to raise her! our emotions were the very same when the doctor handed her to us in the hosptial the moment she was born. You just have to find the fit for you on this journey and do what you are going to feel most comfortable with. Good luck, I know it's not easy for you.