As an adoptive parent and being adopted myself I can only say trust yourself. When we meet our birthmom she became a friend and now she is a part of our family, we talk on the phone weekly and she is like a sister to me, she is in my home when she pleases and I go to her home as well. I think we are lucky to have her in our lives, and I hope that when we venture in to our next addition I hope it will be the same. Trust yourself to make the right choice and only make it if you are sure, Much love
