Hello Matri
Okay, thanks for explaining things. My offer still stands if you ever change your mind.
And, I think it's unfair that the aParents put everything in your hands. Since they hold the legal responsibitly, I think most of the initiation should go to them. Of course, I do think it is great for the bMom to make the first move, but for the most part, I think it should be up to the aParents.
As bMoms, we already face enough doubt and feelings of "am I intruding?" ..even if we know that we know that we are welcomed to contact. Plus, I like it when my daughter's aParents reach out to me ...it reaffirms that I am special to them, and that they will honor their agreement.
Like the starter of this thread and a dear friend of mine said ..."I wish my daughter's adoptive Mom knew the power of invitation"
In saying that, I am in no way implying that your child's aParents don't enjoy you and value your role in your child's life ...it's just, some people don't know any other way and just hope for the best.
Hugs,
Skye