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Brock, I think that's a prefectly normal response on your part. Only you can decide if there's an emotion like anger or resentment because she didn't raise you or perhaps a desire to make sure it's clear that your parents (who adopted you) are the ones who raised you. The problem for adoptees (and birth parents) is always to acknowlege the birth tie while recognising the parents who made you part of their family.

For me, there is joy (and some pride) in being able to say "this is my son." Sometimes it's so complicated to then say (especially to those who don't know the story), "The one I placed for adoption when he was born." As I've said before, it's bittersweet. (I will say it's easier for me now to answer the doctor honestly when he asked how many children I have -- and is really asking how many times I've given birth.) D is and always will be my first born whom I love very much. I will never be his mother (or mom) in the way that S is. I suspect your bmom feels the same way. She finally can say- this is my daughter - the one I gave birth to. She knows, possible with pain, that she will never be the same as the mom who raised you. (Ok - maybe I'm projecting myself into your situation!)