Michelle - We seem to have much in common with this issue. SHE never called and thanked my mother for doing what she did. My mother asked about HER(when we were communicating) all the time. SHE never once called or made an effort to show my mother appreciation.
My situation is a little different. SHE left me at my mother's house when I was two months old and my mother took me in and raised me. This is why I feel SHE owes my mother something. My mother wasn't prepared to raise an infant but she did.
lonni - I think I would have been resentful if SHE would have searched for me, but in my case SHE didn't have to search, SHE knew exactly where I was. Does that make sense?? Why didn't SHE check up on me?? If SHE was nervous about it, once I initiated my search at 9 yrs old, that should have told HER that it was okay for her to come around. But instead, SHE disappeared AGAIN. SHE didn't want to be bothered with me and I didn't get that as a kid, so I kept searching. I do agree, in a sense, that it's not the birthmother's right to contact but in my case I would have known SHE thought of me or was concerned.
If I just confused any of you, don't worry b/c I just confused myself. This is an issue, even though I am in the situation, I don't have an understanding of it myself.
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