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Skye-
We do have an open adoption with at least 4 visits a year, but I now live in another state and so that is why I rarely see her. When I was living back home i did see her pretty regularly at first but the more it hurt the less I visited. Now the aparents leave all of the contact up to me, which can be a real burden b/c I get tired of calling and asking for letters or picures (I feel like I bother them). The whole situation is pretty complicated, some highlights- the afather is an old friend of my dad, they adopted another child about 6 months ago, i have a 15 month old son now. It's really a long story, all that rambling to say that we do have an open adoption agreement it just hasn't been handled that great by either party.
As for post adoption counseling I did go for a little while after my daughter was born but I felt betrayed by my counselor in a way I guess. Probably b/c she was the pre adoption counselor and she was the one who had me sign all the papers in the hospital. I think she was too involved in the logistics of everything it was hard for me to trust her emotionally. They had a support group that I attended twice but at the time, I was too angry to sit and listen to other women, especially ones who seemed to be so at peace with their decision. And the last thing I wanted to do was deal with everything, so I quit going period.
I appreciate the offer for support groups in my area. I still am not sure if I am ready for that. That may sound crazy b/c it has been 2 years but I just don't know if I am.
a/w thanks for listening.
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