I also agree with Lucy those same things work great for me. My youngest will yell and scream in time out and I tell him to keep on doing it because that is his fun time and I want to make sure he is having fun.
His response - "I don't want to have fun !!"
My oldest is also on abilify and it has worked wonderful with him. I went up on the dose a bit after my youngest came home but have dropped back to the 7.5 mg at the end of the school year. It is for his anxiety level which can shoot thru the roof quite often.
I would say just keep pushing for what you believe you need. If you think another doc would be good see if the therapist can recommend one. I have been lucky there are many therapists to choose from in MN but I have had to drive quite a ways for them. I found a great doc - who is also an adoptive parent.
just my experiences