I don't mind answering questions, and if I do, don't worry, I won't be offended and will let you know.
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I have a couple more questions if you don't mind just out of curiousity.
1) When you were living with your parents didn't they suspect a pregnancy because of your growing tummy? Or did you just hide it very well?How can someone not know? Especially if they're giving you hugs goodbye and stuff? Did anyone suspect or ask you anything?
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I didn't really grow very much until the last couple months. I had a boyfriend (not A's bfather) up until mid Sept and he never noticed. We weren't sleeping together or anything but it was summer and he saw my stomach and he hugged me often. Then I started to gain weight and I wore a lot of sweatshirts. One person that was a customer in my restaurant said "So are you in a womanly way or are you just getting fat?" I called him a name I cannot say on the boards and walked away. Other than that no one even out in public asked, no usual "how far along are you?" situations. I also was looking for a job at the time and was kind of depressed that nothing had worked out so I blamed some weight gain on that.
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2) Weren't you scared to have the baby all by yourself? No medicine, no one there to help you in case something went wrong? How did you know exactly what to do and when? Did you cut the cord yourself or just let the hospital do it?
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I was sort of scared I guess, not for me, but for the baby, but just knew we would get through this. I tracked my contractions all through the night and the next day, how long they lasted, how far apart they were...I didn't even take an aspirin when I was in labor. I knew I was REALLY close to a fire station and a hospital and that I could get us there immediately if I had to. I gave birth (apologizing to her the whole time for some reason, like I was hurting her) looked at her, said, cry, baby, cry. She started to cry right away and I scooped her up and hugged her. I cleaned her off, cut her umbilical cord and clamped it with a clip I had next to my bed ready. I guess you can learn a lot from the internet...However afterbirth was not part of my research...(Sorry if thats TMI!!!)
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I just found out I am pregnant and I can't imagine how scary it would be to go through labor and delivery all by yourself. How did you make it through? What were your feelings after you left the hosptial?
Can't you do the safe heaven thing while still giving birth to the child in the hospital?
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Congrats on your pregnancy. I guess I had many months to prepare to do it my way. I wanted peace and quiet and serene and very calm and that's what I did. I didn't scream (okay, maybe once)...I just knew I HAD to make it through so I did.
Even if I could have used Safe Haven at the hospital I wouldn't have because of my Mom situation (it's in the above post).
I never even got sad about doing it alone until recently. I secretly LOVED that it was just me and my daughter. That I held her first and saw her first, and that nobody told me it was a girl, but that I saw her and knew. I heard her cry first and I swear I saw her smile first that very night. I held her while she fell asleep first, and selfish or not, I don't share those moments with anyone but her. And I will never again be able to say that, so I cherish that time with her.